Is forgiving a gift?

Is Forgiving a Gift?

Forgiveness breaks the cycle of hatred, anger and pain, often passed on to those around you. Forgiveness helps you make peace with your past. It is the sweetest revenge.

Telling someone is a bonus! Forgiveness has little to do with someone else because forgiveness is an internal matter. It is more about how it can change your life.

Getting someone else to change his or her actions, behavior or words isn’t the point of forgiveness. Forgiveness takes away the power someone else continues to wield in your mind, because you now claim ownership of the issue at hand.

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. Simply identify the situation to be forgiven and ask yourself: "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" If the answer is "No," then that’s it! All is forgiven.

Forgiveness is an act of the imagination. It dares you to imagine a better future, one where your hurt will not be the final word on the matter. It challenges you to give up your destructive thoughts about the situation. It builds confidence that you can survive the pain and grow from it.

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